50+ Fearless Feminine Power

Are You a Daydream Believer?

I remember getting the “Class Day Dreamer” award in High School. My Mother was not impressed. She was hoping that I might get best dressed or most popular or something like that. But no, I got “Class Day Dreamer”. And frankly, I liked being thought of as a little “out there”. It fed into my creative, whimsical side. Bored with a teacher who failed to inspire, I would make up my own stories in my daydreams and they were certainly much more interesting, at least to me. And I find that this skill comes in handy now that I am in my fifties. Who knew? Now I purposefully daydream so that I can envision what I want to create in my life. And I call it “manifesting”. Perhaps my Mother might have been more impressed with that term-lol. So how about you? When was the last time you allowed yourself to daydream-to just kick back and muse about what you would like to create in your life? Do you ever wonder if time or money or fear were not present what you would be doing in your life? Who would you become? Try asking yourself these compelling questions and simply day dream about them. Let your mind wander and see how it feels to be you-just creating whatever you want. Dream and go as big as you want. From a Law of Attraction perspective, this envisioning puts the universe on alert that you are growing and stretching your possibilities -so watch out world. But this is just the beginning. What if once you started to dream bigger dreams, you...

Don’t be a Victim of Tall Poppy Syndrome

Are you afraid to follow your passion because you think, “Who am I to be so special?” Do you think that shining your light will make others see you as cocky or arrogant? Do you play small because you are afraid that you’ll get cut down by people you care about? If you answered yes to any of these questions you may be suffering from Tall Poppy Syndrome.  Here is the Wikipedia definition: Tall poppy syndrome (TPS) is a pejorative term primarily used in the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, New Zealand and other Anglosphere nations to describe a social phenomenon in which people of genuine merit are resented, attacked, cut down, or criticized because their talents or achievements elevate them above or distinguish them from their peers. Metaphorically, the tall poppy in the field gets cut down to blend in with the other poppies. In real life situations, it manifests itself within us when we are afraid to shine our light for fear of ridicule. This fear of being criticized when our talents or achievements elevate us above our peers has many root causes and can be subconscious. It undermines us by preventing us to play a bigger game or really go after what we want or be our highest and best self. And, it appears to be more common in women. Think of the ways that you have held back from fear of other’s criticism – maybe it was a friend when you were a teenager who felt threatened whenever you accomplished something that she didn’t. So you made sure that you didn’t outshine her… ever. This syndrome can also be seen in families where a parent doesn’t...

How To Look Amazing in Pictures

 by Shana Christoforo I wanted to take some time to give a couple of tips to those getting make-up done for photography. I feel as though this is an important conversation to have with women because they need to know that makeup is  done a certain way for professional photography, for a reason. Whether you are getting an updated head shot for  your career, or just getting your pictures taken, there are some important things to remember in order to keep you  looking your best when the camera flashes. 1.) Less is NOT more. Sometimes I finish a job for photography and when I hand the mirror to the client, they say they feel their makeup is too heavy. I do this for a reason. Especially in flash photography, color and some detail are muted out. Professional makeup artists are trained to know when to apply just enough makeup that it emphasizes features in photography. I like to see color in three main areas: the eyes, the cheeks and the lips. I always add more than the client would most likely wear to work everyday or out running errands. The reason for this is that the colors always come out less harsh on the camera, so I compensate by adding more so the client looks healthy and vibrant in pictures. 2.) Even skin tone is a must. No matter what you do, even skin tone is so important. Nothing looks worse on film then blotchy skin. I always apply a primer to set the base, then a foundation and concealer where needed. Some women tend to have dark circles under their...

The High Cost of Complacency

Have you ever thought about the price you pay for being complacent and staying stuck is in your life? I mean let’s face it, sometimes we need to “kick our butt in the butt” and get out of our own way. But often we stay stuck in “same old same old” because it feels safe and secure and doesn’t “rock anyone’s boat”….especially yours! But this is a false sense of security that will lead you to a life not fully lived-a life lived by default. Human beings are meant to change and grow and adapt. This is what fuels us and keeps our spirit from flat lining. If we want to live full out and on fire we have to understand and accept that there will be bigger swings in our emotions….good and bad and to stifle them is to deny that life force that feeds us the passion that we need to grow. And in fact, when we stifle what we really want, we are affected- either with apathy, depression, blaming, martydom or frankly, a boring life. A “one toe in the water kind of life”. Here is an example. You want to begin a new adventure in your life after devoting yourself to raising your family. But you are feeling guilty. What if they need you while you are taking care of your needs? After all, you have always been there to make them dinner and care for them in countless ways. And although they have lives of their own, you feel as though you are letting them down when you venture into going after your dreams....