50+ Fearless Feminine Power

Lifestyle Business for the Baby Boomer Woman

As we know all too well, life goes by quickly and I remember my Grandmother telling me that it seems to go by faster as we get older. I don’t know about you but I want to slow it down, to drink up the days and savor them-to live my life even more intentionally now that I am only a couple years shy of my 60th birthday. The good news is that statistics are proving that many of us will have a much longer life than our Grandparents and this begs the question: If you knew that you will live your life for 20 or 30 years or more, what would you like to create in your life? One of the ways that you can create the life that you want is by creating a lifestyle business. A lifestyle business is a business that places what is important to you in your life first and foremost so that your business supports your life instead of the other way around.   I have created 2 lifestyle businesses -my home staging business and my coaching practice and they have brought more joy into my life than I could have imagined. Because of them, I love my work, my time is more flexible, I get to be creative, I have more confidence in myself, I am happier, my family is happier because I am more relaxed, I am healthier physically, emotionally and spiritually because I make sure that I carve out time to go to yoga, eat better and have some “fun time”. I can travel whenever I want. My businesses give...

Resistance and How We Sabotage Ourselves

I would like to talk about something that I have often been confused about when it comes to Law of Attraction and attracting what I really want on a conscious level. This little insight is truly a game changer and one that I have to constantly remind myself of. In order to manifest transformation it is so important to pay attention to your thoughts because your thoughts create your beliefs which become your reality. And you can be totally doing this-focusing on what you really want and still not get it because you are actually in some kind of resistance! The definition of resistance is- opposition to an attempt to bring repressed thoughts or feelings into consciousness. According to Law of Attraction principals “what you focus on expands” so if you want to create something in your life-you open your heart and visualize the thing that you want and focus on it as if it were happening now- your version of your reality. However when you do this and still don’t manifest what you want it is because subconsciously you have a competing intention and this competing intention trumps your goal. It is sort of like slamming the gas and brake pedal at the same time. The really tricky part is excavating where you are in resistance and then releasing that resistance because often you don’t know that you are subconsciously resisting. Here are some of the ways to recognize whether you are in resistance and the more empowered way to manifest: You simply feel lousy-maybe you feel angry, overwhelmed, overworked, stressed out sad, jealous, etc. These feelings have you vibrating at a low level and the universe responds...

Do you Suffer from People Pleasing Syndrome?

One of the ways that  women diminish their power and self worth is by always needing to please everyone else, often at their own expense. When we do this we define ourselves by what others think of us as opposed to what we think of ourselves and this leads us to a never ending pattern of trying to please people who, frankly, have their own agendas. And consciously or unconsciously, others agendas may or may not be what is in our best interest. What’s worse is that when we give away too much, we raise our own bar on what becomes expected of us from others. I have seen women who are complete givers become taken advantage of and resentful of the people who they give so much to. This is because there is an unequal exchange of energy and implicitly many of these women expect that the person that they are giving to will appreciate and value them more-when instead they often simply expect more. It is so important that we are aware when we are trying to derive our value outside of ourselves and to change that. Brene Brown sums it up poignantly: “When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our...