50+ Fearless Feminine Power

Lies We Tell Ourselves About Time and Productivity

Have you ever noticed yourself feeling as though you have no time to spend time with your family, exercise or do a hobby that lights you up? Do you know that you should be working more “on” your business and less “in” it so that you will get better results, but you just can’t find the time? Are you always reacting to your customer’s needs but feel as though there is not enough time in the day to take care of everything and everyone? I know that I have had all of these feelings and I totally understand how easy it is to get swept away with the endless responsibilities that come with being a business owner. However, we have far more control over our time than we think. It just takes stepping back and taking a good hard look at the lies that we tell ourselves about time. Here are a few things to think about: Lie # 1-Being busy is the same as being productive- It is so easy to fill our days with a lot of minutia that makes us feel as though we are being productive but is often “busywork” that is not as important as projects that move our business forward and produce results. It is important to check in throughout the day and ask yourself these questions: “Am I being productive or busy?” “How can I be more proactive and less reactive in my business today?” “What results are my #1 priority today and how can I get them done?” Lie #2- Giving yourself more time to work on a project will help...

Are You Chasing Real Success or False Success?

If you are a baby boomer like myself, you remember the opulent 80’s. It was a decadent period of time when having more material things like big houses and fancy cars was a sign of success. Even fashion was extravagant with big hair, shoulder pads and glamorous dresses. Dynasty was the show to watch and everything in our culture glorified money and the accumulation of expensive material items. I was in Real Estate in the late 80’s and I remember one of my colleagues used to always say “He who dies with the most toys wins!” In the 80’s having more was a symbol of success. I bought into that idea of success as a young Mother, not because we had a lot of money. On the contrary. We struggled a lot to make ends meet. However I felt as though I was some sort of a loser for not being able to make enough money to live comfortably. We were a “paycheck to paycheck” family and I thought that there was something wrong with me. According to the world we lived in-I was not successful. We struggled with money and I often got depressed and angry that we couldn’t find a way to make more money and still be great parents. I came from a blue collar family that equated working hard with making a great living. That meant dollars for hours and I simply wasn’t willing to be away from our girls. I chose to give up my new career in acting, something that I went to College for, to go into Real Estate so that I...

Work Life Balance

It seems as though work-life balance is a much talked about, yet elusive idea. It is so easy for small business owners, or anyone for that matter, to fall into the trap of all work and no play. We prioritize our work responsibilities to such an extent, that everyone and everything becomes more important than ourselves. It is soooo easy to do this and often it is such a norm for us that we don’t even see it. Have you ever scheduled an appointment with a needy client when you were supposed to go to one of your children’s events? Have you stopped working out because you can’t seem to find the time? Are you putting off that art class that you have been wanting to take because it won’t seem to fit into your already “crazy” schedule? The interesting thing about work/life balance is that it is really about being fulfilled and happy. When we are fulfilled and happy in our life we feel more balanced. Actually,fulfillment and happiness should be the goal for everything in our life. If we make that a priority and use this philosophy as a litmus test for all of our work/life choices-our energy will soar and we will feel more balanced. And yet, we may still be extremely busy. We actually get energy from activities that fulfill us and make us happy because energetically we are vibrating at a higher level. On the contrary, when we are always giving our energy away, without boundaries concerning our time and energy, we become depleted. This is particularly true when we are spending our precious...

The Power of Joy in Your Business

“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.”  ~Kevyn Aucoin I believe that focusing on joy in your business is one of the most important things that we can do in order to feel fulfilled. After all, joy is our birthright. It is important to understand that joy is not something that is a by product of circumstances. We may feel joyful when something great happens like when we get a fabulous new client or exceed our goals. But real inner joy is with us always and is not contingent on outside circumstances. Joy is a choice that we make. It is up to us to focus on joy-no matter what. It is found in the way we look for the golden nuggets in everything that happens to us- things that are in our control and not in our control. Unfortunately, joy is often the missing ingredient in most business plans. We are so hell bent on making sure that we are always in action in order to achieve our goals, that we forget about the incredible energy that we get when we focus on a joyful way of “being”. This is an inner game job! The irony is that we can “do” until we are blue in the face but if we don’t really dissect the way that we are “being” from the inside out-we will sabotage our...