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Are You a Waffler?

blog_090915One who waffles, from the verb waffle, meaning to never settle on a stance on one (or more) issue(s); A waffler usually goes from one side to the other and back again, usually multiple times, depending on who (s)he is talking to at the time. -Urban Dictionary

A dear friend of mine has amazing design instincts and yet she is currently stuck in “I don’t know land” about a paint color for her kitchen. It has been going on for quite some time. She currently has a gorgeous hand painted mural of a garden scene that is timeless but the walls abutting it are a dated faux finish so she wants to change them to a solid colored paint and she is torturing herself over what color to pick.

Should she go with the gray lavender that is in walls in the hall adjoining for a subtle consistent flow or a pear color that is in the bird in the mural for a pop of color and fun?

She asked me my opinion on the colors she was thinking of and I told her what I thought. My background is in art and design so it made sense to consult with me on this. She has also asked the opinion of numerous others which has caused her to waffle.

Basically I let her know that none of her choices were wrong-she has a great eye- but each choice would give her a different feeling and she had to choose which feeling she wanted.

That is where she has to make the decision. This is where the “rubber meets the road” and it is up to her to decide.

However when I saw her this week she was still laboring over it? Now we just laugh because she really can’t make up her mind on this and it has become a fun joke.

I even suggested that she paint a piece of the wall to see if she likes it.

Instead she wants to ask other people’s opinions, hoping that somehow she will be able to decide-maybe someone will have the magic answer.

She is waffling.

And waffling over a paint color is not the worst thing in the world but if this is how you handle every decision that you make, you may want to rethink this strategy, especially in business and major life decisions.

Life constantly presents us with opportunities to make decisions. At some point you simply have to take a stance and make a decision.

Not making a decision is a decision in itself and will impede your growth.

Let’s say you want to make a big business decision-for instance starting a new business and you are so caught up in everyone’s opinion that you never make a move.

How will you ever know if that might have been the most amazing choice if you don’t at least try?

The really cool thing is that once you start making decisions and moving forward, you will know whether it is something that excites you (and maybe even scares you a little) or deflates you. Sometimes you have to commit to a path to figure this. You need to experience it instead of just think about it.

This is certainly different than giving yourself time to make a decision by strategic choice, for instance giving your intuition time to guide you.

The point is that there are no guarantees and part of the adventure in life is to try on things to see if they are a good fit.

It is better to take action and then listen to your inner voice on guidance for the next step. This builds momentum and confidence.

So what are you waffling on and what step can you take to move forward?

In Total Support,

marianne cherico

P.S. Leave your comments below. I am rooting for you!

P.P.S. I am working on a program coming out soon that will be geared towards helping Baby Boomer Women who are tired of playing small and want to start owning their magnificence-inside and out! We will address how to transform your life so that you will feel great, look great and own your power (and of course how to stop waffling). Stay tuned……..


Mare-profMarianne Cherico helps Baby Boomer women create a life filled with joy, passion and purpose so that they can create a Smokin’ Hot Second Half. She is proud to be a member of this generation of women who changed the world for women, presenting future generations with limitless opportunities to thrive and grow into lives that are meaningful and authentic. It is Marianne’s sincerest pleasure to help these women find their purpose, work through limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs and step into their own brand of magnificence. You can get a taste of Marianne’s teaching by downloading her free report “How to Plan for a Smokin’ Hot Second Half” on her website here: http://www.coachingbymarianne.com.




  1. I know you didn’t ask for this but your friend should consider hiring a Certified True Colour Expert. We are trained to look at undertones and show clients with painted boards how the various options will look. A choice can be made with in an hour and her life can then move on! I waffle on whether or not to spend more time writing blog posts and then get stuck on the “how to organize an efficient email list”. I would much rather be out doing color selection or updating spaces.

    • Hi Carolyn,
      I know what you are saying about color tones. I have studied color theory (I am an artist) and my friend knows this but still waffles:-)
      And I understand about time and be productivity-we all struggle with that. I try and ask myself “what are 3-6 things that I can do today to get me closer to what I want”?You have to build your biz in order to get those color consulting jobs,right? Thanks for your comments…..wishing you all the best!


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