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Baby Boomer Woman-What Will You Do This Year?

As I approach my 59th birthday this month, I am again reminded about how fast time goes by. Birthdays do that, don’t they? They cause you to stop and think-evaluate where you are and where you are heading. So many things are happening this year. This year my youngest daughter left the nest and I am not going to lie-it was a sad first few weeks of letting go. My husband and I missed hearing her stories when she came home from her Interior Design job in Boston. She breathed energy into our home with her dynamic personality and it felt empty for awhile. My middle daughter got engaged to the love of her life. It has been a year filled with planning and getting excited and lots of female bonding with her and her sisters.  Her happiness fills my heart and I am soo grateful! And my oldest daughter and son in law are having a baby-our first Grandchild. He is a little boy and we are already madly in love with him. We are excitedly planning the nursery in their new home with heartfelt anticipation. And life goes on………. There are some changes that are unplanned in our lives and whether or not they bring us joy or sadness, it is up to us to determine how we will adapt. But there is a restless side in me that doesn’t want to just “adapt”. That side of me wants to create my life from the inside out-living intentionally and with purpose. I want to be in alignment with those things that mean the most to me-to tap...

Time to Shake Things Up

I believe that  it is really important to “shake things up” once in awhile so that we see things from a different perspective- a much more empowering perspective. Often we get caught up in “figuring things out” for our lives and businesses from a linear perspective. Perhaps we follow a plan that has been successful for someone else and we assume that we will get the same results. However, there is another way and this way, if you are not familiar with it, may seem a little bit daunting or woowoo for those of you pragmatic folks out there. This other way has us  tapping  into universal wisdom and combines it with the DNA of our Soul so that we tune into solutions that we may not have thought of. It involves being in congruence with what feels great and creative and expansive instead of unexciting, tried and true, and typical. Although it doesn’t come with a recipe for certainty, it is super juice for entrepreneurs because it allows us to put our personal stamp on everything that we do. If we follow our soul’s whispers we will feel empowered to trust ourselves more from the inside out and we will create a life beyond our wildest dreams. When the personality comes fully to serve the energy of its soul, that is authentic empowerment. ~Gary Zukav When we feel empowered from the inside out, our lives and businesses are in flow because we are aligned with a much more profound source of energy. We become more resourceful and things come to us easily. We actually magnetize things to our...

Baby Boomer Women- Finally Having Your Cake and Eating it Too

Many of us in the Baby Boomer generation know what it is like to see life go by too quickly. We wish that we could just slow down time so that we could savor the moments. If you are a business owner like myself maybe you too wish that you didn’t have to work so many hours. Maybe you want to create a deeper meaning in your life and business so that your business is an extension of a life lived on purpose. And you also want to be feel financially abundant! You want to have your cake and eat it too. Our careers or businesses have been born and sometimes fizzled in lieu of something else. In the blink of an eye our babies have left the nest to start their lives anew. Loved ones have left us-some far too soon. Some of us have become Grandparents. Often our dreams have been usurped by responsibilities and duty. We wish we had more time and energy to revel in the nuances of everyday life instead of being pulled into the undertow of making a living. We wish that we had more time for our art or writing or spirituality or taking better care of our bodies or……..(fill in the blanks). Those  of us who worked hard to create a business or career that would support our family are beginning to want something more. We may love our businesses but we know that there is something missing…….something very important! We want ourselves back! We want to live our lives with intentionality! We want to start honoring the essence of who...

What Do You Stand For?

If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. . ~Peter Marshall   As we get older it often becomes clearer that there are certain things that are important to us that may have been trumped by responsibilities and survival in our earlier years. Busy building careers and/or raising families, there was little time left  to reflect on what is important to us on a deeper level. Studies have shown that having a purpose in life leads to a more fulfilling and happy life. When you are aligned with your core values and purpose in life, you are more in the flow. You are excited to wake up each day because there is something that is really important for you to do-something that sets your soul on fire. You feel as though your life matters and you truly can make a change in the world. So what holds us back? Here are some things that stop us from the full expression of ourselves and what we stand for: we are afraid of what people might think we don’t want to rock the boat we  are not used to our voices being heard we are comfortable being in the background and afraid to have the spotlight shine on us we had to stay “invisible” because we were in an abusive household we don’t feel worthy we don’t believe people will listen we are overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin we are afraid Sometimes we hold back because we don’t believe that we can make enough of a difference to as many people as we would like to...

Three Strategies to Supercharge Your Business

I coach many entrepreneurs who are stuck in their business.They want to grow but there are things that get in their way. What is interesting is that it is typically about who they are “being” in their business that keeps them stuck rather than what they are doing. It is their mindset around their challenges that block them. So I would like to propose 3 ways to get out of stuck and start soaring: Set Better Boundaries- Boundaries are important because they help us honor what is really important to us. They allow us to take charge of our time and own our value. When we respect ourselves, others will follow. I remember when I had no boundaries when I was selling Real Estate many years ago. I let my customers dictate my time, always jumping to please. I was like a puppet on a string. I ended up becoming very burnt out and resentful because I never allowed myself any time for me. I wasn’t honoring my own health and well being. What I realize looking back is that I had created this monster because I allowed it to happen instead of setting healthy boundaries. It is the difference between being proactive and reactive. Once I realized that it was up to me to take care of me, everything changed. I felt so much better about my business and it began growing effortlessly. I felt lighter, happier and less stressed. And my customers totally respected my time. I still give awesome service but not at the expense of my health and well being. I made a decision to...

Living Your Life Agelessly

Some people are old at 18 and young at 90……time is a concept that humans created. ~Yoko Ono   I remember my Mother telling me that older women were treated as if they were invisible. My Grandmother said the same thing to me in regards to how the medical profession treated the elderly. She would do everything in her power to charm her Doctors and Nurses and from what I saw-they adored her. However, I believe that she used her charm so that they wouldn’t look at her as “less than” or an inconvenience. I will never forget when she was in her nineties and she was hospitalized. As each nurse came into the room she lavished her with compliments. My Grandmother told each and every one of them how beautiful they were and they all loved it. What made it really funny was that there was a sign over her head that said “legally blind”. I could never understand why my Mother and Grandmother felt that way. After all, they were always the life of the party. Both of them had family and many friends who adored them. They were pied pipers wherever they went, taking their willing followers on a journey with their funny, quirky stories that we never tired of. In fact I was recently at a party with my Mother where one of the guests was looking in my Mothers direction and gushing on and on about how beautiful she was. My Mother very modestly thanked her. The funny part was that the woman was talking about a cat named Willow that was directly behind...

Personal Growth-Your Way

Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.-Oprah I recently did a survey asking women over 50 who were on my email list or Facebook page to rate what was most important to them. There were 83 responses  and the three top things that they listed in order of importance was personal growth, health and wellness and business and career. So I wanted to do a deeper dive and explore what personal growth meant to these women and just as I had imagined, it meant something different to each of them. Here is a sampling of what they said: being comfortable with who I am keeping a promise to myself being able to activate those dreams I pushed aside learning to be the best me without caring what others think defying ageism by not worrying about what society dictates for me as a middle aged woman becoming more aware of my inner voice that shows me my best path making the most of each moment-not dwelling on the past or future my “kick in the butt” to keep trying and learning new things facing my fears head on being able to look back at myself in history and not recognize myself realizing that what used to be important is not now-what was not important now is the ability to be in two places at once in my mind-satisfaction with my accomplishments and the willingness and courage to risk what I have got to move forward making choices that will stretch me to be the best version of myself making...

Your Business, Your Life, Your Way

Have you been so consumed by your business that it is taking over your life? Did you start your business because you thought that it would give you more freedom but you find that the opposite is true? Do you have a deep desire to do more of the things that you always wanted to do but can’t seem to find the time? If you answered yes to any of these questions then it may be time for you to reevaluate your business model so that it supports your life instead of the other way around. I can just hear all of your gremlins coming up saying that this may be possible for others but not for you. You are telling yourself that you are the glue that keeps every customer happy, troubleshoots every minute problem and keeps the income flowing in by being at everybody’s beck and call. And I get it. I come from an extensive background in the Real Estate sales world where this mentality was rampant. Real Estate agents are paid on commission and only when a house sells. The fear of losing a client before the transaction is consummated would mean working countless hours for no pay and this causes most agents to jump through massive hoops to get and retain clients. This mindset that is energetically born of fear (scarcity and lack) causes many agents to give up on having any days off, important time with family and mental downtime. They let their customers dictate their schedules and then they eventually become burnt out and resentful because they go for months without replenishing...

Simple Success Mindset Shift

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” – Anais Nin   So much of what we accomplish in our lives comes from taking a leap of faith and believing that we can create what we want by making day to day and sometimes minute to minute choices that bring us closer to our goals. Although we understand all of this intellectually, often we are sidetracked from achieving the very things we want the most. We can fantasize all day and night about what we would like to create in our lives: a healthier body, more money, a better relationship with a loved one, but if we don’t take the necessary steps to achieve these goals we will stay stuck…….We will settle. For those of you who want to live “full out” and experience your life in a more fulfilled way, I would like to propose a mindset shift that will help you. What if instead of simply taking steps towards your goals you asked yourself these simple questions: What if I put it all out there? What steps would I be taking? What would I be doing differently? In order to stop doing what you are doing (that is not getting the results you want) you have to start thinking more expansively. You have to “shake things up”. You get to create your reality. Asking yourself these questions will shift your perspective from “good enough” to “great”. When we settle for “good enough” we fall short of what we are capable of. We don’t push our boundaries. We cheat ourselves of what is possible and we justify...

Transformational Coaching

I often get asked, “what do you mean by transformational coaching?” and I would like to try and explain it in a way that will help you understand the amazing benefits because transformational coaching is so profound that it changes the way we are wired and helps us to thrive in a way that is like no other! Transformational coaching starts with finding out what my client really wants and then helping her grow into the person who will achieve what she wants by transforming her way of “being” and sense of empowerment in the world. When I talk about empowerment it is not in an egoic way but more of a strong sense of knowing who she is, what she wants and owning her dream and vision for her life, in spite of her fears and limiting beliefs. “How does one become a butterfly”, she asked? “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” Trina Paulus When we feel empowered we are more resilient. We are better at handling situations that might have stopped us in the past and we believe that we can make our dreams come true. This belief is so important because if we don’t really believe that we can do something, we will resist it! Often times clients have a vague idea of the essence of what they want. They are frustrated with a job or relationship. They are not happy. They want to build their business without feeling overwhelmed. They want to feel financially secure or thriving. In order to really zero in on...