50+ Fearless Feminine Power

Are You Chasing Real Success or False Success?

If you are a baby boomer like myself, you remember the opulent 80’s. It was a decadent period of time when having more material things like big houses and fancy cars was a sign of success. Even fashion was extravagant with big hair, shoulder pads and glamorous dresses. Dynasty was the show to watch and everything in our culture glorified money and the accumulation of expensive material items. I was in Real Estate in the late 80’s and I remember one of my colleagues used to always say “He who dies with the most toys wins!” In the 80’s having more was a symbol of success. I bought into that idea of success as a young Mother, not because we had a lot of money. On the contrary. We struggled a lot to make ends meet. However I felt as though I was some sort of a loser for not being able to make enough money to live comfortably. We were a “paycheck to paycheck” family and I thought that there was something wrong with me. According to the world we lived in-I was not successful. We struggled with money and I often got depressed and angry that we couldn’t find a way to make more money and still be great parents. I came from a blue collar family that equated working hard with making a great living. That meant dollars for hours and I simply wasn’t willing to be away from our girls. I chose to give up my new career in acting, something that I went to College for, to go into Real Estate so that I...

Work Life Balance

It seems as though work-life balance is a much talked about, yet elusive idea. It is so easy for small business owners, or anyone for that matter, to fall into the trap of all work and no play. We prioritize our work responsibilities to such an extent, that everyone and everything becomes more important than ourselves. It is soooo easy to do this and often it is such a norm for us that we don’t even see it. Have you ever scheduled an appointment with a needy client when you were supposed to go to one of your children’s events? Have you stopped working out because you can’t seem to find the time? Are you putting off that art class that you have been wanting to take because it won’t seem to fit into your already “crazy” schedule? The interesting thing about work/life balance is that it is really about being fulfilled and happy. When we are fulfilled and happy in our life we feel more balanced. Actually,fulfillment and happiness should be the goal for everything in our life. If we make that a priority and use this philosophy as a litmus test for all of our work/life choices-our energy will soar and we will feel more balanced. And yet, we may still be extremely busy. We actually get energy from activities that fulfill us and make us happy because energetically we are vibrating at a higher level. On the contrary, when we are always giving our energy away, without boundaries concerning our time and energy, we become depleted. This is particularly true when we are spending our precious...

The Power of Joy in Your Business

“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.”  ~Kevyn Aucoin I believe that focusing on joy in your business is one of the most important things that we can do in order to feel fulfilled. After all, joy is our birthright. It is important to understand that joy is not something that is a by product of circumstances. We may feel joyful when something great happens like when we get a fabulous new client or exceed our goals. But real inner joy is with us always and is not contingent on outside circumstances. Joy is a choice that we make. It is up to us to focus on joy-no matter what. It is found in the way we look for the golden nuggets in everything that happens to us- things that are in our control and not in our control. Unfortunately, joy is often the missing ingredient in most business plans. We are so hell bent on making sure that we are always in action in order to achieve our goals, that we forget about the incredible energy that we get when we focus on a joyful way of “being”. This is an inner game job! The irony is that we can “do” until we are blue in the face but if we don’t really dissect the way that we are “being” from the inside out-we will sabotage our...

Time and Money- The Currency We Barter

Years ago when I read Cheryl Richardson’s book Time for Your Life, I had a huge aha moment that changed the way I looked at things. Cheryl talked about the currency of time and how it is most important to value our time as much, if not more, than money. How you spend your time should be intentional! After all, time is a “currency” that is finite. We can never get it back…….so how do we really want to spend it? She actually drilled down the way that we barter time for money by having us ask ourselves something like this: “Is that shirt that is going to cost you $100 worth 5 hours of your precious (working) time? That is what you are really bartering here. Is it worth it?” If the answer is “hell yes” then by all means buy it! If the answer is no-if you value the way that you spend your time more than the shirt-honor that! Most of us were taught that, in order to get ahead, we have to work really hard and “pay our dues”. That meant spending a lot of time working. I come from a hard working blue collar family where the breadwinner, my Father, always said that hard workers would be the successful ones. He worked round the clock to provide a beautiful life for my Mother and his 4 children. We never wanted for anything. He never complained. In fact, he was proud of being able to provide us with everything that he did. None of us ever really realized the sacrifices he made on his time...

Authentic Power-Love is All You Need

I was just listening to an interview with Gary Zukov and he was talking about authentic power and his words are so profound. If you haven’t read his books Seat of the Soul and The Heart of The Soul, I highly recommend them. Basically, he talks about the evolution of our souls and how we are put in the “Earth School” to learn how to become aligned with our soul. Contrary to the egoic model of power that is so prevalent in our society, authentic power is the power to change ourselves from within. It is more about who we are “being” and evolving into. In order to tap into our authentic power, we need to come from a place of love and not fear. Because authentic power is an inner game job, it is not about trying to manipulate the world around us, but rather to make choices that are in our highest and best interest-fueled by the energy of love. According to Gary, every human feels insecure- wants to love and belong but we feel as though we are intrinsically flawed. Furthermore, on a deep “soul” level, we believe that if anyone could see us as we really are, we would not be lovable. This is the challenge of the soul’s journey-to align our true self with love. When we come from a place of love we meet with the fear within ourselves that may otherwise cause us to do things like: play the victim become angry withdraw These are all attempts to manipulate the outside world-to keep us “safe”. When we are in  authentic power, we...

Baby Boomer Woman-What Will You Do This Year?

As I approach my 59th birthday this month, I am again reminded about how fast time goes by. Birthdays do that, don’t they? They cause you to stop and think-evaluate where you are and where you are heading. So many things are happening this year. This year my youngest daughter left the nest and I am not going to lie-it was a sad first few weeks of letting go. My husband and I missed hearing her stories when she came home from her Interior Design job in Boston. She breathed energy into our home with her dynamic personality and it felt empty for awhile. My middle daughter got engaged to the love of her life. It has been a year filled with planning and getting excited and lots of female bonding with her and her sisters.  Her happiness fills my heart and I am soo grateful! And my oldest daughter and son in law are having a baby-our first Grandchild. He is a little boy and we are already madly in love with him. We are excitedly planning the nursery in their new home with heartfelt anticipation. And life goes on………. There are some changes that are unplanned in our lives and whether or not they bring us joy or sadness, it is up to us to determine how we will adapt. But there is a restless side in me that doesn’t want to just “adapt”. That side of me wants to create my life from the inside out-living intentionally and with purpose. I want to be in alignment with those things that mean the most to me-to tap...