50+ Fearless Feminine Power

Aging Authentically and Powerfully

I have been thinking a lot lately about what aging authentically means. In my mission to help Baby Boomer Women defy ageism, I am particularly interested in helping each woman create her life powerfully-from the inside out. How we think about our age is much more important than a number. We can choose to think about our age from a place of innate power and possibility or weakness and limitation. Which perception will create your reality? Do you limit yourself by buying in to what it is expected of you at “your age”? If so-cut it out!!! Who made up that rule anyways? Don’t allow a youth obsessed culture to rent space in your head and heart. Don’t let it define who you are. When you look at how precious every day is, as life becomes shorter, start to embrace each moment and know that you can create the life you want.   Defy the naysayers. Stop playing victim to a number. Create your most amazing memories. Look fear in the face and do the things you have always wanted to do. Embrace your badass self fully. Spread love around. Focus on all of the things that you can do. Do more of the things that you are passionate about and less of the things you “should do”. Be intentional. When each of us owns our authentic power we become comfortable in our own skin and we live our lives fully. Age doesn’t matter. In fact we embrace our age wholeheartedly. We understand that our age has given us so much. Our litmus test for what is true becomes...

Creating Your Life With Your Whole Heart

The older that I get the more important I believe that it is to live my life full out because even if I am lucky enough to live another 40 years (yup-that would make me 99) I realize how much more precious my time is here on Earth. And I don’t want to squander it by playing small anymore. Been there, done that and it is borrrring!!! I would much rather embrace life, take chances, enjoy the journey, let go of attachment to the outcome, express my unique spirit in the world, stand in my power, share the best parts of me. What about you? Do you feel that way? I was just listening to an interview with Brene Brown and she touched on this very subject. She calls it living with whole heartedness and she talks about the opposite of this which is living with half heartedness: Half heartedness is when you say to yourself “I won’t put my whole heart into something and I will hedge my bets, so that if I fail I won’t be as hurt”. Brene Brown This of course, is not true. It is fear based thinking-allowing our fear to determine our destiny. It is the stuff that regrets are made of. It also makes us feel as though we somehow robbed ourselves of our own magnificence because we will always wonder…… “What if I would have put my whole heart and soul into something. What might have been? Who might I have become?” Fear of failure is a passion killer and it stops us from owning our magnificence. Of course no one likes...

Do you Suffer from People Pleasing Syndrome?

One of the ways that  women diminish their power and self worth is by always needing to please everyone else, often at their own expense. When we do this we define ourselves by what others think of us as opposed to what we think of ourselves and this leads us to a never ending pattern of trying to please people who, frankly, have their own agendas. And consciously or unconsciously, others agendas may or may not be what is in our best interest. What’s worse is that when we give away too much, we raise our own bar on what becomes expected of us from others. I have seen women who are complete givers become taken advantage of and resentful of the people who they give so much to. This is because there is an unequal exchange of energy and implicitly many of these women expect that the person that they are giving to will appreciate and value them more-when instead they often simply expect more. It is so important that we are aware when we are trying to derive our value outside of ourselves and to change that. Brene Brown sums it up poignantly: “When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our...

The Happiness Factor and Success

What makes you really happy? This is a loaded question since what makes each of us happy is as unique to us as our DNA. And yet we often fall into the trap of wanting things that “should” make us happy. Here is what Shawn Anchor, author of The Happiness Advantage has to say: “Our most commonly held formula for success is broken. Conventional wisdom holds that if we work hard we will be more successful, and if we are more successful, then we’ll be happy. If we can just find that great job, win that next promotion, lose those five pounds, happiness will follow. But recent discoveries in the field of positive psychology have shown that this formula is actually backward: Happiness fuels success, not the other way around. When we are positive, our brains become more engaged, creative, motivated, energetic, resilient, and productive at work. This isn’t just an empty mantra. This discovery has been repeatedly borne out by rigorous research in psychology and neuroscience, management studies, and the bottom lines of organizations around the globe.” So how do we handle our unhappiness if we believe that our circumstances dictate it? We make a choice to change our way of “being”, of how we see our life. Once we do that-magic happens. We attract situations, people, opportunities to us. The opposite is true for people who don’t choose to focus on happiness. Have you ever been around negative people who literally suck the air out of a room? They actually repel people. If you want to be successful it is important to energetically magnetize people to you-not...

Time to Kiss Your Inner Critic Bye Bye

Have you ever finally gotten the courage to create what you want in your life and you are feeling really great about it and then……kaboom…… you start getting plagued by self doubt and limiting beliefs? Perhaps you start thinking things like: “Why did I ever think that I could finish this? Who am I to do this? I don’t know what I am doing. I am lost. I don’t have what it takes to do this”. Welcome to the world of your self sabotaging, spirit sucking inner critic. Our inner critic saps us of our motivation and makes us feel as though our actions are futile and because it causes us anxiety, our natural inclination is to avoid the very thing that we need to do to move forward. It can paralyze us, cause us to avoid through procrastination or addictive behaviors or withdraw. One of the ways that my inner critic used to show up was in the middle of an art project. I would be going along happily and then I would get stuck. I would think to myself “I am totally screwing this up. I don’t like the way that this is coming out. Maybe I should just start over. Why did I think that I could do this anyway? Argggghhhhh” It seemed to happen every time! Recognizing this voice helped. I learned to say to myself, “Marianne, just walk away and when you come back, look at the whole picture-the bird’s eye view and then trust your gut -your divine inner wisdom-and then go with it”. We always have a choice regarding the way we...

Grow Yourself – Grow Your Business

Growing a small business is not for the faint of heart, especially at the beginning before there is a tipping point where all of your efforts have built momentum and it becomes easier to attract clients. However for those of you  who have made a decision to leave the “safe” but often confining world of 9-5, one of the rewards is the incredible opportunity for personal growth. Your business is your creation, and extension of who you are.  You get to create it however you want – authentically yours. Your days are spent the way that you want.  You make choices on how you spend your time (although it may mean bartering time you spend with family in the day with working til the wee hours of the night to meet a deadline).  You get to decide on who you will work with – your ideal clients and focus on attracting them through your personal marketing funnel.  You have the potential to make as much money as you want, while doing it in a way that lights you up. It is all up to you. And the really cool part is that, in order to be really successful, you actually have to grow into the person that you need to BE. The #1 secret to growing a small business is your willingness to grow yourself and get out of your comfort zone to break that glass ceiling of what you think is possible. You  look at the world with a different lens when you know that the success of your businesses is a result of what you do or...