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5 Ways to Get Unstuck and Get Going with Your Life

Do you ever hear yourself complaining about the same thing over and over again but you do nothing to change it? Do you have big goals but somehow can’t seem to take the first step? Are you simply wishing and hoping that things will change? We all get stuck at different times in our life. I mean, let’s face it-it is so much easier to stay where we are, even if we are unhappy! You know the saying “the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know”. This is not a saying that would empower anyone to move forward in their lives, right? I mean, why do we have to align ourselves with the devil anyways? Sooooo not cool…… How about this for a shift “the devil you know will keep you stuck in complacency if you don’t do something about it-period!” Now doesn’t that make you want to get into action? The key to getting unstuck lies within you. If you do nothing different-nothing will change. Before you say that this is pretty obvious, let me explain. Most of us know that it is up to us to effect change but we don’t do it because it is so much easier for us to stick with inertia. “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.” -Newton’s First Law of Motion That unbalanced force is caused by you doing something differently so that you will start creating momentum. Momentum is a force to...

Time and Money- The Currency We Barter

Years ago when I read Cheryl Richardson’s book Time for Your Life, I had a huge aha moment that changed the way I looked at things. Cheryl talked about the currency of time and how it is most important to value our time as much, if not more, than money. How you spend your time should be intentional! After all, time is a “currency” that is finite. We can never get it back…….so how do we really want to spend it? She actually drilled down the way that we barter time for money by having us ask ourselves something like this: “Is that shirt that is going to cost you $100 worth 5 hours of your precious (working) time? That is what you are really bartering here. Is it worth it?” If the answer is “hell yes” then by all means buy it! If the answer is no-if you value the way that you spend your time more than the shirt-honor that! Most of us were taught that, in order to get ahead, we have to work really hard and “pay our dues”. That meant spending a lot of time working. I come from a hard working blue collar family where the breadwinner, my Father, always said that hard workers would be the successful ones. He worked round the clock to provide a beautiful life for my Mother and his 4 children. We never wanted for anything. He never complained. In fact, he was proud of being able to provide us with everything that he did. None of us ever really realized the sacrifices he made on his time...

Authentic Power-Love is All You Need

I was just listening to an interview with Gary Zukov and he was talking about authentic power and his words are so profound. If you haven’t read his books Seat of the Soul and The Heart of The Soul, I highly recommend them. Basically, he talks about the evolution of our souls and how we are put in the “Earth School” to learn how to become aligned with our soul. Contrary to the egoic model of power that is so prevalent in our society, authentic power is the power to change ourselves from within. It is more about who we are “being” and evolving into. In order to tap into our authentic power, we need to come from a place of love and not fear. Because authentic power is an inner game job, it is not about trying to manipulate the world around us, but rather to make choices that are in our highest and best interest-fueled by the energy of love. According to Gary, every human feels insecure- wants to love and belong but we feel as though we are intrinsically flawed. Furthermore, on a deep “soul” level, we believe that if anyone could see us as we really are, we would not be lovable. This is the challenge of the soul’s journey-to align our true self with love. When we come from a place of love we meet with the fear within ourselves that may otherwise cause us to do things like: play the victim become angry withdraw These are all attempts to manipulate the outside world-to keep us “safe”. When we are in  authentic power, we...

Baby Boomer Woman-What Will You Do This Year?

As I approach my 59th birthday this month, I am again reminded about how fast time goes by. Birthdays do that, don’t they? They cause you to stop and think-evaluate where you are and where you are heading. So many things are happening this year. This year my youngest daughter left the nest and I am not going to lie-it was a sad first few weeks of letting go. My husband and I missed hearing her stories when she came home from her Interior Design job in Boston. She breathed energy into our home with her dynamic personality and it felt empty for awhile. My middle daughter got engaged to the love of her life. It has been a year filled with planning and getting excited and lots of female bonding with her and her sisters.  Her happiness fills my heart and I am soo grateful! And my oldest daughter and son in law are having a baby-our first Grandchild. He is a little boy and we are already madly in love with him. We are excitedly planning the nursery in their new home with heartfelt anticipation. And life goes on………. There are some changes that are unplanned in our lives and whether or not they bring us joy or sadness, it is up to us to determine how we will adapt. But there is a restless side in me that doesn’t want to just “adapt”. That side of me wants to create my life from the inside out-living intentionally and with purpose. I want to be in alignment with those things that mean the most to me-to tap...

Time to Shake Things Up

I believe that  it is really important to “shake things up” once in awhile so that we see things from a different perspective- a much more empowering perspective. Often we get caught up in “figuring things out” for our lives and businesses from a linear perspective. Perhaps we follow a plan that has been successful for someone else and we assume that we will get the same results. However, there is another way and this way, if you are not familiar with it, may seem a little bit daunting or woowoo for those of you pragmatic folks out there. This other way has us  tapping  into universal wisdom and combines it with the DNA of our Soul so that we tune into solutions that we may not have thought of. It involves being in congruence with what feels great and creative and expansive instead of unexciting, tried and true, and typical. Although it doesn’t come with a recipe for certainty, it is super juice for entrepreneurs because it allows us to put our personal stamp on everything that we do. If we follow our soul’s whispers we will feel empowered to trust ourselves more from the inside out and we will create a life beyond our wildest dreams. When the personality comes fully to serve the energy of its soul, that is authentic empowerment. ~Gary Zukav When we feel empowered from the inside out, our lives and businesses are in flow because we are aligned with a much more profound source of energy. We become more resourceful and things come to us easily. We actually magnetize things to our...

Baby Boomer Women- Finally Having Your Cake and Eating it Too

Many of us in the Baby Boomer generation know what it is like to see life go by too quickly. We wish that we could just slow down time so that we could savor the moments. If you are a business owner like myself maybe you too wish that you didn’t have to work so many hours. Maybe you want to create a deeper meaning in your life and business so that your business is an extension of a life lived on purpose. And you also want to be feel financially abundant! You want to have your cake and eat it too. Our careers or businesses have been born and sometimes fizzled in lieu of something else. In the blink of an eye our babies have left the nest to start their lives anew. Loved ones have left us-some far too soon. Some of us have become Grandparents. Often our dreams have been usurped by responsibilities and duty. We wish we had more time and energy to revel in the nuances of everyday life instead of being pulled into the undertow of making a living. We wish that we had more time for our art or writing or spirituality or taking better care of our bodies or……..(fill in the blanks). Those  of us who worked hard to create a business or career that would support our family are beginning to want something more. We may love our businesses but we know that there is something missing…….something very important! We want ourselves back! We want to live our lives with intentionality! We want to start honoring the essence of who...