|Some people are old at 18 and young at 90……time is a concept that humans created. ~Yoko Ono|
I remember my Mother telling me that older women were treated as if they were invisible. My Grandmother said the same thing to me in regards to how the medical profession treated the elderly. She would do everything in her power to charm her Doctors and Nurses and from what I saw-they adored her. However, I believe that she used her charm so that they wouldn’t look at her as “less than” or an inconvenience.
I will never forget when she was in her nineties and she was hospitalized. As each nurse came into the room she lavished her with compliments. My Grandmother told each and every one of them how beautiful they were and they all loved it. What made it really funny was that there was a sign over her head that said “legally blind”.
I could never understand why my Mother and Grandmother felt that way. After all, they were always the life of the party. Both of them had family and many friends who adored them. They were pied pipers wherever they went, taking their willing followers on a journey with their funny, quirky stories that we never tired of.
In fact I was recently at a party with my Mother where one of the guests was looking in my Mothers direction and gushing on and on about how beautiful she was. My Mother very modestly thanked her. The funny part was that the woman was talking about a cat named Willow that was directly behind her.
When my Mother repeated this story to my Father and I, our bellies hurt from laughing. It is the way that she tells it. We will, no doubt, tell this story over and over again and still laugh hysterically. Her sense of fun is so youthful. No wonder people love to be around her. She doesn’t “act her age”. She is ageless.
My parents are more fun to be around than most people we know. In fact we travel with them often. Here is a picture of my Mom and Dad in Positano. Age doesn’t stop them or define them. They are a blast!
My Mother is 79 and she still could run circles around most of us. She never stops. And she is always dressed in sparkles, which magnifies her inner charisma, even donning a BCBG outfit or Juicy Couture pocketbook.
So it makes me sad to think my Mother and Grandmother, who light up a room, feel any less than wonderful because they are older. To me, they shine brighter than most people I know who are younger. In my humble opinion-they should be more cherished!
I believe that in a society where there is an obsession with youth and aging is thought of as decline instead of growth-something has to change. And I believe that we, the Baby Boomer generation, who has changed so much for our daughters, will leave a legacy that shows them that aging can be wonderful. At least that is my sincerest hope and something that I am committed to doing!
I want my daughters to feel great about themselves at every age. I don’t want them to buy into stereotypes that are outdated and place inner and outer barriers on what they think is possible for them at any age. I want them to feel empowered-to know that they have choice in how they create their lives-from the inside out. In order to do this, I must “walk my talk”.
I would like to propose that we can all catch ourselves from falling into society’s stereotypical traps that cause us to play a smaller game in life as we grow. It starts with being mindful of things that we say. Things like;
I am too old to… (fill in the blanks)
She is “over the hill”
He is a dinosaur
You can’t teach an old dog new tricks
It is important that we don’t define ourselves or others by age. We, as a society often assume that we get less physically and mentally proficient as we age. And yet there are many people who have done amazing things in their later years while someone younger didn’t have the where with all to push themselves to succeed.
|I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to live the width of it as well. ~Diane Ackerman|
With age comes incredible wisdom. Our BS meters are stronger. We know what we like and don’t like. We are more focused on some level because we aren’t being pulled in a million different directions as we were when we were younger. We aren’t trying to prove anything and we care a lot less about what people think.
I would like to propose that you start thinking of aging as a wonderful journey. Start living your life based on your core values and what you really want to create. Don’t use age as an excuse any more. Create your own possibilities.
Now that’s what I am talkin’ about!
Cheers to you and your ageless self,
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